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Elopements are where my heart comes alive. They are where I feel the most creative and the most connected to my couples. We are able to have so much time together to celebrate life and love and spending a lifetime with an incredible partner. There is space for all the things a couple wants to feel or needs to experience during that day, which in turn allows me to capture moments and connections I wouldn't otherwise be able to.
We did a styled shoot with Melissa and Josh a while back, and they loved it so much they decided to actually elope in a similar way. Just the two of them, myself, Shannon and Andrew from Fox & Owl Studio, sharing laughs, eating cake, popping champagne, and romping around in the golden woods we love so dearly.
I'll be manifesting my goal for many more elopements like these in 2018
Kat & Rich,
Thanks for letting me embrace my creativity in the telling of your story. Thank you for talking about not only the joys of a marriage in your vows, but also the reality of the struggles and hardships you will face. Thank you for being silly & honest with yourselves and with us. Rich - thank you for trusting me to put on your boutonniere and saying it looked good with the slight tilt. Kat - thank you for being willing to take off your jacket in the most freezing wind and jump around in it for a while.
Thank you for choosing me to create this for you. So much love to you both <3
Emily + Max
With each unique couple,
each shaky & honest vow,
I continue to learn more about love through these partnerships -
these people that allow me into their life for just a day or even as short as an afternoon.
Because on this day they are their most raw,
their most vulnerable,
and their most alive.
The choices they made have brought them here and I am a choice as well,
And with each quirky first dance,
each intimately chosen location,
each grateful hug,
so so many hugs,
Just last week I shared a very heartfelt post about Ian, myself, and our current views on marriage for us. You can read it here, but the more I thought about it while writing the piece, I realized that this would be a great blog series... to learn different peoples opinions and hear their experiences related to marriage.
Marriage has changed so much and still looks different in different parts of the world. People are married for status and wealth as well as partnership and love. Some people believe marriage is a religious union, some people don't connect it with religion at all. So this is our goal, to learn about marriage from the people, and maybe through that we will be able to discover what our own hearts and minds value as well. If you would be willing to share your thoughts, experiences, and hopes on the blog, please email me at evergreenerafilms.com.
(PLEASE NOTE: this is an open-minded space. It is for people to share their opinion and to be heard, not to be argued with. It is a safe space. If you want to debate, hate, or discriminate, this is not the place)
First up, Jennifer's view on marriage...
"Personally I am so excited to get married. Not for the party, not for the gifts, or photos, but for the symbolic stamp of affirmation that you get when someone promises you in the most ardent way possible that they see themselves with you forever. It's not something I need, but something I think will be mind-blowing to have, freely given and with intention.
In the past I've wanted my ex's to talk about marriage because I needed them to, because I was insecure in my relationship and wanted that contractual commitment. So unhealthy. But now that I've met Bobby- my perspective has totally changed. I'm no longer in any rush. He makes me feel more secure than anyone I've ever known. I know he loves me, and I know he intends on staying with me long into the foreseeable future. It's not about need, but rather just a desire to eventually experience the process and the promise that comes with marriage. To have them say it out loud would be a powerful experience that I wouldn't want to miss out on, whether it was in front of 1000 people or just in front of me and the mountains. (In Colorado you don't even need an officiant to get married.) I guess in a way, it's just as meaningful as any ritual is to groups that find value in whatever ritual they practice. To me it's a way of ultimately expressing and honoring your relationship.
And again- it totally depends on the people- but I think sometimes if things get rough and rocky, it's a little bit more difficult to exit a marriage than it is a non-contractual relationship. This is the most shallow point in a way, but I think it can make some difference. If there's more at stake, more headache and difficulty to make the exit, sometimes it forces people to reflect a little on whether or not they actually want to leave something so serious. It also keeps people in situations they should have gotten out of, and that isn't to say non-married couples don't take breaking up very seriously as well. But as with many things in life, impulses can overrule reason fairly quickly. When there's a kind of forced waiting period, sometimes the dust can settle and people can remind themselves of why they made the commitment in the first place. Sometimes they'll be obliged to make the extra effort. ? Like I said- just a small reason but I think there's a little validity to it.
! I wouldn't consider myself a traditionalist, I just think this is one I would choose to follow because of what it [would] mean to me personally. <3"
Jennifer is a wedding photographer based out of Boulder, Colorado.
See her beautiful work at www.jennifermorganphotography.com
Three years ago I fell in love when I least expected it. Fast forward to now and here we are having lived together for 2 years and moving into a home that Ian purchased this month. He is my best friend - He tickles me just to hear me laugh uncontrollably because he loves it. I've never seen my family bond with someone outside of our family so much before. He amazes me every day with his kindness and intelligence, but not once have I ever thought "I'm going to marry this man".
This doesn't mean that I don't want to spend as many years as I can with him, that I'm not happy enough with him, or that I don't think we are a good match. I have truly never known a partnership like this before... It has blown my young hearted expectations out of the water compared of what I thought my future serious relationship would look like back then. I couldn't have imagined anything as purposeful or enjoyable as my partnership with Ian has been so far, and for this I am so very thankful..
So the reality is that I have never been sold on the idea of marriage itself.
I have never been sold on the idea of marriage *for me* and Ian feels the same way. This is where we are, where we are happy, where we find the most purpose right now as a couple and that's all that matters to us currently.
I'm a questioner, and the older I've gotten the more proud of that I have become. Ian is a questioner at heart, more so than me thanks to his scientific brain. We like to rip traditions, societal expectations, and cultural propagation apart until we can wrap our mind around the "why" and see if it fits with who we are. We believe it's healthy and important for all people to do this (and are grateful we live in a place where we get to).
It's not even that I'm afraid of all the negative things you hear about people once they get married - divorce, cheating, etc... I believe that marriage can be incredibly powerful and worth it amidst all of those challenging experiences. It's mainly that I want to know in my heart what I believe a marriage is - what makes it different than what I have with Ian right now, other than legality and a title, and I don't know what that is yet. Maybe I never will. Maybe it's something you can't know until you are married, but I'm okay with trying to figure that out.
So when it comes to being a wedding filmmaker (and loving every minute of it), but not really wanting to be married myself, I have chosen to live (and work) by two of my biggest beliefs:
1. Love is a beautiful, purposeful, worthy mystery that we get to enjoy as humans. I want to celebrate that and share the stories that show the depth of that. We spend a majority of our lives searching for, struggling with, and relishing in the whirlwind of love, therefore my films aren't just a representation of a day - I strive to make them a representation of the couple. Love is my focus and I don't believe there is anything more worthy to spend my career celebrating.
2. All people are different, and deserve to choose different things for themselves to live their most joyful life. I ask all my couples why they want to get married. WHY - what change do they think will occur, what will it bring to their life that they don't have now that means something to them - And you know what? I get some badass answers and they are always different. I love that. Just because I don't necessarily want to get married doesn't mean other people shouldn't. We make choices based upon what those choices mean to us and marriage should be no different.
When making this film of Melissa + Josh I knew I had to express the ferocity of their chemistry. Their love seemed magnetic and passionate. It became more and more obvious each minute we spent with them; When Josh kissed Melissa on the shoulder when buttoning her dress or when Melissa kissed Josh's finger after she placed the ring on it... I spent a majority of the day amazed at how open-hearted they not only were with each other, but with us being around as well. It blew me away. Love isn't something to hide.
Therefore, I wanted to represent the beauty I saw in their relationship as powerfully as I could.. I hope I did it justice.
Check out the feature on Junebug!
Photography: Fox & Owl Studio
Florals: Little Wild Bloom
Dress: Wildflower Bridal
Hair + MU: Powder Me Pretty
Cake: OWL Bakery
Rentals: East West Venue & Vintage Rentals
Macrame: Find Your Fiber
Ring: Stephanie Ellis Jewelry
Linens: Green Earth Studio