Since I ask so many of my clients to share the stories of their relationship with me, I think it is important I share mine with you!
Ian and I met during my very last year of college at Appalachian State University. We wound up being neighbors! He can still tell you what I was wearing the day we all moved in to our duplex - my favorite denim overalls rolled up at the ankle. Who knew over-alls could be cute right?
Our relationship just seemed to flow in it's own natural way. We would run across each other throughout our days on campus and would take time to sit and chat. Sometimes he would come downstairs and knock on our apartment door just to say hey. For some reason I never took this as a sign that he was interested in me. Eventually holiday break came and when we got home we decided to meet up in Asheville since we both lived in the area. This friendly night out turned into the most incredible date that we both didn't expect. We came away from that night together feeling overflowing with connection and chemistry - but also confusion. Ian was leaving in a few weeks to study abroad in England and I would be graduating before he even returned home.
So, we spent a few more days together before he flew across the ocean and had decided to go about our own lives, just appreciating the time we had together for what it was.
Eventually I became grateful of my situation. I was graduating college without a serious relationship, feeling independent and free to explore the next part of my journey any way that I wanted. I even had plans to move to Seattle with a good friend and explore a career in the beauty photography industry, tearing down the model standard and replacing it with diversity and women of all sizes.
Surprisingly enough, throughout the final months of school he made an effort to Skype me every other week, where we would talk and catch up on life as well as learn more intimately about each other. I remember thinking "why is he talking to me when he is in England with so many new exciting people and things!?"
When he returned home my plans had changed and I had decided to stay in Boone for the summer and work. He showed up at my door unexpectedly one night and we had our "never thought we would see each other again" reunion. From then on we spent the summer wading through creeks and climbing up mountains. We laid in his hammock together and kayaked across Price Lake. We explored our relationship and what it meant and eventually my plans to move fully fell through, and I knew there was more than one reason why.
Eventually I had to move back home and although we both said we never wanted long distance relationships we just flowed into one, knowing that being in each others lives was the main thing that mattered to us. Ian finished one more year of school and we saw each other every two weeks (except for the 2 months I traveled abroad myself). I learned on that trip in Europe that I was no longer the girl who wanted to be fully independent and free to choose life on my own. Something deep had shifted inside of me.
When he finally graduated we had to decide where we would like to spend the next part of our lives. Not surprisingly we moved to Asheville. Ian grew up in Asheville and I grew up in a small town outside of it, but being adults in one of the best mountain towns in the country was still enthralling to us. And so far we haven't regretted it one bit. Moving in together was just another step that we knew was right for us. We definitely both went through our unsure and scared phases, but flowed right out of them into trust and excitement.
We have lived together for a year and a half now and it has been a million times easier than I ever imagined. I imagined it being a lot harder, and it hasn't been at all. We just seem to fit. That's not to say we don't have things that annoy each other or that we have never had disagreements, but we have taken them with stride, appreciating how each moment allows us to learn more about one another.
Our daily life is joyful, adventurous, and comfortable.
We have grown a lot as a couple and as separate people throughout our journey together and we look forward to what the future has to offer.
We also frequently get asked if we are going to get married anytime soon. Here is our answer:
Who knows! Right now we are happy with life as it is and don't feel the need or desire for anything else. We are all about doing life in the way that is true to who you are in the moment and in this moment we are growing in our careers, in learning what a long term relationship is like, and exploring our dreams together.